Dating a recovering alcoholic relationships
Alcoholism is a serious issue which has the capacity to affect your life if you date someone with this problem.
A relationship with an alcoholic isn't impossible, but it does take a certain finesse.
After dating one dud after another, you finally find someone who seems to have it all – thoughtful, witty, responsible – and good-looking to boot.
Then they drop a bomb: “I used to be a drug addict.” They may as well have said, “I’m married.” But does one partner being in recovery automatically spell doom for a relationship?
Ask a mental health professional about the disorder or read a book about the struggles people with alcoholism have faced to expand your knowledge. Be open about your concerns and hesitations about dating her. Share your story and why you have come to the meeting.
Creating an air of openness and honesty lets her know that she can be forthright and builds trust between the both of you. Al-Anon is a support group focused on the people affected by alcoholism, such as wives, husbands, parents, partners and children; these groups allow people to share their experiences and benefit from the support of others. Continue your participation in the support group for as long as you feel necessary.
If you care about someone in active addiction, help them into treatment and hold off on turning a friendship into more until they’re grounded in their recovery.Alia Butler holds a Master of Social Work from Washington University, St.Louis, concentrating in mental health, and a Master of Arts in social-organizational psychology from Columbia University.Recovering addicts don’t expect perfection in their partners, having learned firsthand that it doesn’t exist.And they have committed – in recovery and in life – to honesty and integrity and making decisions in accordance with their values.